In my life I use many types of communication. I am constantly involved in face-to-face communication, communication over the phone, written and typed communication, and Skype which is like a mix of face-to-face and the phone. With today's technology I do not really think that it is about responding differently to the physical body, but I instead respond differently to which senses are being activated much like McLuhan's statement that "'touch is not skin but the interplay of the senses, and "keeping in touch" or "getting in touch" is a matter of a fruitful meeting of the senses of sight, translated into sound and sound into movement, and taste, and smell"(61). When I am interacting with sight and sound I feel as though I have a full body experience. When I am with a person physically, my attention is with them, I am with them, and I feel connected to them, even if we are not actually talking. When I am physically with someone, even if we are watching a movie my attention is still on them, I am aware they are there. If I am asked a question in person, I will answer and if I ask a question I can physically and mentally be with the person to get the complete experience of their answer. Their hand gestures, their facial expression, their eyes. Everything is believable, everything feels real. I believe Skype allows for the same connection, even though the body is only visually not physically present. When I Skype with someone it is usually planned. I discuss with my family and friends when they can be most "present." Skype is still face-to-face communication, questions cannot be as easily ignored, and the reactions to things are seen fully. Communication with or without the body always involves presentation, you are always creating who you are and inevitably you are always a "structure to be monitored and modified"(Mirzeoff 120). When I am seeing people, depending who it is, even if it is just over Skype, I usually always put on make up and dress in an outfit I would want people to see me in. Face-to-face cannot be as easily controlled as other forms of communication, so it is important I focus on what I can control, how I look, my body, which I somehow manipulate with every form of communication.
I find over the phone to be my least favorite medium of communication, because it is as spontaneous as face-to-face, requires a level of flow, but it only involves one sense. I am easily distracted on the phone, because I am a much more visual person. If the television is on, if I am with someone else, or if I am on Facebook, I will probably be only half listening to the conversation. On the phone it is much harder to tell what is really going on, because you have no way of seeing, someones reactions or actions. It is all about the audio, and it is very hard for me to simply listen. Without any type of body, on the phone you can control your appearance by saying what you are doing, maybe even what you are wearing, which will paint whatever picture you want and whatever picture the listener wants to decode, but it is not real, there is no proof. I also find I am constantly being caught off guard with the phone. I know when I am going to see people, I plan my own Skyping sessions, but a phone call will come completely out of the blue. Because there is no need for physical, but at the same time the phone requires timely answers, you have to think on your feet. The phone for me is a source of stress, and I absolutely prefer face-to-face.
Finally there is written communication and type. Mirzoeff's section on "Net Life" states that "the perception that the body need not stop at the skin but can be a pen and complex structure"(116). This is both true and untrue to my use of these mediums. I do not think anything can compare to the skin, but I believe writing and type have the ability to create a different type of skin. My phone number, my Facebook page, and my email are all ways I "translate more and more of [myself] into other forms of expression that exceed" me(McLuhan 57). They become a direct part of who I am and without my body they become my body. I can manipulate and control my appearance by things like my use of punctuation and smileys in texts, by editing and adding pictures on myself on Facebook, and by how I talk in emails depending on what role I am trying to fill. I find that the body and these structures are not the same, because my body is the actual, but with writing I can create whatever I want my body to be and that becomes my identity and how I communicate. With my use of the internet, "cyberspace is at present one domain where no one can tell if [I] can hear"(Mirzoeff 116). I am much more relaxed over the internet. I am not aware of someone with me, but I am still "in touch" with them, and I can control the situation however I want by answering when I feel like it and interpreting words without facial expressions or voice changes to be whatever I want. There is a cyberspace and texting body, that is what people decode, and there are innumerable ways to manipulate that body, creating one that feels as real as the physical self.
Mirzeoff claims that the virtual and physical both make up a body and I know that is true in my own life. Email, texts, facebook are all part of my virtual organs, but I still believe firmly the separation of the virtual and physical in terms of my creation and my reality. Mirzeoff determines that "the body now appears to be a fluid and hybrid borderland of the two, as subject to change as and other cultural artifact"(116), Maybe my opinion on my physical body will change and my reality will become the internet, but for now I believe what I see and what I hear simultaneously the most, what I can experience with more then one of my senses.
Mirzeoff, Nicholas. "Net Life" and "Virtual Bodies." An Introduction to Visual Culture. London: Routledge, 1999. 111-123.
McLuhan, Marshall. "Media as Translators." Understanding Media. Massachusetts: MIT Press, 1994. 56-61. Print.





